December 18, 2013

Subjective Criticism

"You need to sacrifice almost everything to achieve your goal. So when people say you're lucky, they don't know what they're talking about. The people that say that, will never achieve their goal because luck has nothing to do with it. If I was that lucky, I wouldn't have failed so many times, I wouldn't have had so many sleepless nights. Perseverance is the key to success. Then when you succeed, people will try to justify to you in a very simple way why you succeeded. I will never let any person discourage me from my goals." -Josef Azam

I've been wanting some time to discuss "constructive criticism". You'll sometimes see me call it out on my twitter but never in blog posts. This post is probably the best outfit to speak on it considering this shift dress isn't too flattering for my body type by fashion magazine standards. People misjudge the use of the term constructive criticism to project their own negative opinions about something subjective. There are too many times people write comments on mine and other blogger's pages like "this outfit would look better if", "you should have wore something for your figure" or "this outfit doesn't flatter your body." Please understand that personal style blogs are exactly that. The style pertaining to the person's blog you are directly on. My blog is self-titled. No where on my blog or any other fashion blogger's page does it say we need your approval or advice on something we ALREADY wore. If a fashion blogger is asking advice on what he/she should be wearing, then they probably shouldn't be a fashion blogger. Bloggers have such a strong influence today, probably more than magazines do at this point. Just because you don't understand or like something, doesn't mean it's wrong.

Wearing: ASOS Quilted Shift Dress, ASOS forest green heels, circle drop doorknocker earrings

36 comments:

Anonymous said...

Sorry, but what size did you take for this dress? Thanks.

Victorious MP said...

I agree, I wish all the best in your goals as well as with yoyr accomplishments.

Stacei Vick said...

You look fab!!! I love the message behind this!

Maggie Snarkface said...

Yuuuup... Couldn't have said it better myself. Also, if someone doesn't like something or all the things, why are they subscribing to the blog?

Maggie Snarkface said...

Yuuuup... Couldn't have said it better myself. Also, if someone doesn't like something or all the things, why are they subscribing to the blog?

Maggie Snarkface said...

Yuuuup... Couldn't have said it better myself. Also, if someone doesn't like something or all the things, why are they subscribing to the blog?

Ngozi M said...

Well said! Btw I love what you are wearing.
dressed2dnines.blogspot.com

Curvy Claudia said...

Great dress!

Patty_difusa said...

I don't know why are you saying that it doesn't suit your figure, in my opinion it does, you look great as usual, and if just because something is not flattering doesn't mean we can't wear it, f*ck flattering remember? xx from the UK

NRC♥ said...

Totally agree, personal style is just that personal!
NRC ♥

Superblondeep said...

wow very comfortale!

Anonymous said...

love it! you look stunning as always.

Anonymous said...

love it! you look stunning as always.

Anonymous said...

love it! you look stunning as always :)

Mira Ho said...

I have to say: I don't like every outfit on you, but I love your confidence and attitude which is more important than the stuff you are wearing. Beauty is not only the clothes or the make up you are wearing, the real beauty is behind the mask. :)

Greets from Germany!

Sara Eskander said...

I love the minimalist feel to this with the edgy quilt dress; your face is very beautiful so it looks even more powerful nude.

Ella Mara said...

This is so true. Thank you for that. I hope you don't mind me quoting you in my (german) blog.

JustPorsh said...

This is a great post!
People be dishing out mean and negative words in the name of constructive criticism.

You look amazing btw. Love your shoes.

Meeesh said...

Well said! The fact that you express yourself in this way is what keeps me coming back to this blog time after time. Being in the presence (online or face to face!) of courageous people like you inspires me to feel stronger and to question our culture of criticism and comparison. THANK YOU XXX :)

Anonymous said...

Look at those ankles! :-)
Niiiiiice...

the padded garment is great too, it's like a top, a jacket and a dress all in one.

And the fact it's padded and cosy justifies treating us to those ankles!!xx

V.J.

Amy Tributetothestyle said...

This is soooo "you"! Love your dress: so unique.
www.tributetothestyle.com

Missy May said...

I totally agree with you. Love the dress and you look great Nadia. The colour compliments you well.

missymayification.blogspot.co.uk

Ria said...

Lololol. Though I don't get those kinds of comments often...when I see them I'm always like...I'm sorry did I ask you.

P.S. Your eyebrow game is sick!

Eautrice J said...

Mmmmm tell it girl!!! Very well said!!! Btw your hair is growing out really nice...Keep doing what you do girl!

PS. I finally added a photo of myself and created a google profile..In the past I'd show up on here as Mrsjay..anywho have a great day girly!

Eline said...

Love love love it. The dress, the shoes, the words.

melissa ward said...

Great post .... Love this dress :)

Stylish Sana said...

As a new fashion/ personal style blogger I totally appreciate what you just said and I agree!! It's exactly why we blog to fill a niche that's not being filled, to style our frame in whatever way we please! so please get out of here coming in and trying to put us in , yet, another box! Thank Nadia!!

StylishSana of mixupfixup.com

Runa Azam said...

Personally am a fashion blogger and so understand your point. However, honey you look fly in this dress and I love the green shoes against your skin. You look divine <3

Runa Azam said...

Personally am a fashion blogger and so understand your point. However, honey you look fly in this dress and I love the green shoes against your skin. You look divine <3

Rebeca Patrício said...

Hi. I discovered your blog not quite long ago and I have to say you're an inspiration to me. Your words are mine. I'm not a fashion blogger but I'm fond of fashion and every single time I need to go out (especially somewhere fancy) I think about what people will think of me or about my outfit. I'm fat, I lack confidence in my body and to add some more I'm very very shy. So, I'm learning to not give a f*ck about all this judgment I put myself into. And your blog is one of the things that encourages me. So, to sum up: thank you. Thank you for being bold, confident, for having a talent of expressing yourself with clothes and showing to the world that being over the "limit size" doesn't change anything. Rebeca P. from Brazil.

Rebeca Patrício said...

Hi. I discovered your blog not quite long ago and I have to say you're an inspiration to me. Your words are mine. I'm not a fashion blogger but I'm fond of fashion and every single time I need to go out (especially somewhere fancy) I think about what people will think of me or about my outfit. I'm fat, I lack confidence in my body and to add some more I'm very very shy. So, I'm learning to not give a f*ck about all this judgment I put myself into. And your blog is one of the things that encourages me. So, to sum up: thank you. Thank you for being bold, confident, for having a talent of expressing yourself with clothes and showing to the world that being over the "limit size" doesn't change anything. Rebeca P. from Brazil.

dazzy said...

Preach! you looj good as always

Belledazzy.blogspot.com

Luise Röming said...

I am totally agree with you. Hugs from Germany.

www.lubloggt.de

Alice M said...

So right!

Alice M said...

So right!

Missy said...

...besides, what does 'flattering' even mean?
I would assume, people using that phrase usually mean it doesn't make someone look smaller most of the time, but who even said you have to look smaller in order to look good? This mindset is what we're trying to break free from, this mindset is why we need people like you! You go, girl!